FOUR THINGS TO ASK A STRANGER (almost a parody)

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One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Creating Alone In America

The impact of "Bowling Alone in America" was a heightened awareness of how isolated many of our common pursuits have been. The irony of the "cyber community" is that each participant is alone, in the company of a technology instrument, while participating in this greater sense of community. It does not argue with the facts: it is a functional contradiction. Increasingly we are alone when we are together.

For independent creatives this has long been a familiar song. A professional editor, Betsy Lerner, refers to this often in her book THE FOREST FOR THE TREES: An Editor's Advice to Writers. She says, "Whenever I attend writers' conferences, I am struck with the overwhelming sense of alienation that many aspiring writers seem to feel.." Further she addresses the irony that creatives, writers specifically, work to cohesively join and connect with the world - while working alone, with no human contact, for hours, days and weeks at a time.


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My friend and fellow creative, Liz Kalloch, has addressed this issue wonderfully. If these issues seem familiar to you, you will take school and comfort from Liz here: http://www.scoutiegirl.com/2011/05/are-you-a-seeker.html

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The impact of "Bowling Alone in America" was a heightened awareness of how isolated many of our common pursuits have been. The irony of the "cyber community" is that each participant is alone, in the company of a technology instrument, while participating in this greater sense of community. It does not argue with the facts: it is a functional contradiction. Increasingly we are alone when we are together.

For independent creatives this has long been a familiar song. A professional editor, Betsy Lerner, refers to this often in her book THE FOREST FOR THE TREES: An Editor's Advice to Writers. She says, "Whenever I attend writers' conferences, I am struck with the overwhelming sense of alienation that many aspiring writers seem to feel.." Further she addresses the irony that creatives, writers specifically, work to cohesively join and connect with the world - while working alone, with no human contact, for hours, days and weeks at a time.


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http://www.etsy.com/shop/athenadreams

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Looking forward to your interview on Steve's show this week!!