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One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Friday, October 15, 2010

answering the questions

Answers to the Questions I’ve received, repeatedly, in the first week of having a bald head with web resources regarding bullying written on it. I’m just listing my answers…you’ll likely recognize the question.

Answer one: I write the tale of my life by the stories I repeat in my days. I am a page upon which I write with the pen of conviction, intention and enthusiasm. One person can make a difference – I am one person and therefore, I make a difference.

Answer two: I do not consider shaving my head a severe action. I consider bullying, abusing and beating and berating others a severe action. My action is calculated and personal. I chose to give up my hair for a short period of time. I am safe. I am surrounded by allies. People who are bullied are not yet safe. People who are bullied are still looking for resources and resolutions and respite. I want to shine a light on some of those.

Answer three: My hair will grow back. The scars I have from my own injuries from the hands of others now show on my bare skull. My hair will grow back and my scars will not show. But I carry them. I am alive to carry them. I want to do what I can to spread the intense message to children who see no alternatives to their pain that there ARE alternatives and IT DOES GET BETTER. It does. Regardless of WHY you are bullied, there are ways to find your voice and stand differently. That’s why I’ve called my personal action S.T.A.N.D. – Start Today A New Direction.

Answer four: It’s a message to the people who bully, too. There are resources for the difficulties that you face, too. You are not alone, either. There is a better way – STAND – Start Today A New Direction.

Answer five: This action is a model for everyone who has ever complained about some dreadful piece of news and then dismissed their concern with, “I’m just one person, what can I do?” Any action toward the good is important. "There are no small compassionate acts - every kind action makes large the world." -mar -

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