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One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Thursday, September 30, 2010


Embrace your convictions without apology.

(quote from PROMISES TO MYSELF, Conari Press)

“Well, I’m sorry, but I have to disagree with you…”
Conflict is not at the top of many people’s list of favorite things. There are times when a deeply held conviction requires that we take a different path. Choosing a different road than your peers often generates difficulty. This is not a matter requiring an apology but one that is to be celebrated.
“The best place to stand is where everyone else – isn’t.” If you’ve ever been to a Disney property you know the rarity of approaching something that is absent a line. You never apologize for hopping on an entertaining ride absent standing in a line. You celebrate it for sure! So it is for the times in which embracing a conviction of yours leads you away from your peer group. It is an assurance that your vision toward your own goals and purpose is 20/20.
When I traveled to Paris with a group of friends, each traveler had different destinations in mind. Rather than argue over where we would all go together, we each pursued our own way and met up at the end of the day. No apologies. There was fascinating dinner conversation. Every one had fresh experiences to share and the journey was enlarged for everyone because of the diverse roads.

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