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One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Monday, September 6, 2010

Seize The Rest...

Offer the best you are able.
“Best” is a variable assessment. What is my best on Monday morning at 7 is different than my best on Thursday at 3 in the afternoon. In this moment, on this day, I will offer the best I am able to give.
I do not confuse this with the measurement of “good enough.” When I say something is “good enough,” it means I know there is more that could be done. I could go to a level 10 but I’m stopping at 7 because, in my estimation, that is all the circumstance merits. That’s an investment choice.
When I’m in the “best I am able” mode – I know I need to be gentle with myself. I need not compare this day with any other day. This day stands alone. My cousin observed, with irony, how much labor he has to do on Labor Day. This day offers some rest from traditional “labor” and I’m going to seize the opportunity. Rest on one day assures that I will be able to invest a full out “10” on another day.
(quote from PROMISES TO MYSELF, Conari Press)

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