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One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Thursday, September 30, 2010


Embrace your convictions without apology.

(quote from PROMISES TO MYSELF, Conari Press)

“Well, I’m sorry, but I have to disagree with you…”
Conflict is not at the top of many people’s list of favorite things. There are times when a deeply held conviction requires that we take a different path. Choosing a different road than your peers often generates difficulty. This is not a matter requiring an apology but one that is to be celebrated.
“The best place to stand is where everyone else – isn’t.” If you’ve ever been to a Disney property you know the rarity of approaching something that is absent a line. You never apologize for hopping on an entertaining ride absent standing in a line. You celebrate it for sure! So it is for the times in which embracing a conviction of yours leads you away from your peer group. It is an assurance that your vision toward your own goals and purpose is 20/20.
When I traveled to Paris with a group of friends, each traveler had different destinations in mind. Rather than argue over where we would all go together, we each pursued our own way and met up at the end of the day. No apologies. There was fascinating dinner conversation. Every one had fresh experiences to share and the journey was enlarged for everyone because of the diverse roads.

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Gratitude for Walking Tall

Walk tall into your day. Be filled with gratitude for what you see from the higher viewpoint.
There are some days I am aware of becoming small. As if I would prefer anonymity and the privilege of disappearing into the crowd. Today is not that day.
Today is the day I stand tall into the day. I proudly throw my shoulders back and am ready for the fray, the fracas, the fun. I know I am visible. My actions, attitudes and choices matter. First they matter to me. And the repercussions of what I do are then ripples in a large water. I cannot know the reach of what I choose in this day. But I CAN know there is a reach.
So today I walk tall. Stand tall. Own my actions. And I know that means at the end of the day, when I set it all down, I will sleep my best, knowing I’ve done my best.
(quote from PROMISES TO MYSELF, Conari Press)

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

One often meets their destiny on their way
to somewhere else.

Where I think I’m headed and where I end up are often different places. The real point is to be on my way. I like to turn the phrase, “When you don’t know where you are going any road will get you there,” to this, “When you KNOW where you are going…every road takes you there.” It’s a subtle difference but important.
My thoughts about where I’m headed are like little feeder streams. They get me, ultimately, to the big river of my inspired vision. To “get there” though, my feet have to be moving. I must be willing to journey, to discover. And…in the process of meeting my destiny on the “way” to somewhere else…I must have open eyes and heart. So often our greatest good taps us right on the shoulder and we do not acknowledge it because it doesn’t look like what we expected. At every point in a journey you have to get your nose out of the map and pay attention to what is on the road. Pay attention!

(quote from PROMISES TO MYSELF, Conari Press)

Monday, September 6, 2010

Seize The Rest...

Offer the best you are able.
“Best” is a variable assessment. What is my best on Monday morning at 7 is different than my best on Thursday at 3 in the afternoon. In this moment, on this day, I will offer the best I am able to give.
I do not confuse this with the measurement of “good enough.” When I say something is “good enough,” it means I know there is more that could be done. I could go to a level 10 but I’m stopping at 7 because, in my estimation, that is all the circumstance merits. That’s an investment choice.
When I’m in the “best I am able” mode – I know I need to be gentle with myself. I need not compare this day with any other day. This day stands alone. My cousin observed, with irony, how much labor he has to do on Labor Day. This day offers some rest from traditional “labor” and I’m going to seize the opportunity. Rest on one day assures that I will be able to invest a full out “10” on another day.
(quote from PROMISES TO MYSELF, Conari Press)

Friday, September 3, 2010

NOW and...Then...

Extend your hand with the strongest reach.


I’m carrying this letter dated December 26, 1772 around in my journal for the month of September. Did the author of this letter have any idea while penning this letter that 238 years later an artist would carry around their words? Likely not. 238 years – is quite a long reach.

I want to have an expanded awareness that when I extend my hand with my strongest reach…I have no idea of the consequences of that stretch. Thinking forward to the year 2,248 gives me serious pause. What might words and actions might mean to someone…238 years from now? And how does that action look today?

What does your strongest reach look like?

Thursday, September 2, 2010


Our lives are simply a succession of nows.

(from PROMISES TO MYSELF, Conari Press)

Cocoa calmly greeted me as I step out from the post office. Busy with errands, I had the next thing drawing me forward. Cocoa invited me into her dog medicine and nothing else seemed as important. Cocoa had nudges and soft kisses and profound reminders for me. There is no “next thing,” she affirmed. There’s just this thing. This now. Followed by the next now. So I visited with her and learned her two-legged companion got her when he only had five grandchildren and now he has eleven grandchildren. That gives Cocoa quite a succession of nows, doesn’t it? And my afternoon just got richer and chocolatier (choc-oh-lot-ee-er).

Lucky me.