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One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Thursday, August 5, 2010


She changed. She learned. She laughed. (from a woman’s living eulogy, poster 01037 at

I laugh after I change and learn. That’s how it works for me. Before I learn I’m busy trying to learn. Seeking out new knowledge. Opening my eyes to see things from a different view. John Keats said that, “Nothing ever becomes real until it is experienced. Even a proverb is not proverb until your life has illustrated it.”

In the midst of change I’m very engaged. Utterly absorbed in expanding my capacity for new information. There’s a reason this is called stretching. Stretching isn’t easy for most material and it’s certainly not “easy” for me. But so worth it. When I compel myself to reach beyond the borders of what is comfortable…I become my own finest student AND teacher. That moment of epiphany? That moment which has the quick sound of, “OOOOH. I see.” That moment is when the whole of it becomes real in my experience. THAT is the moment that I laugh with relief and joy. Because when I understand how the change and learning line up, it really DOES become easy.

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