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One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Friday, July 30, 2010


“In all things and in all ways, choice impacts virtually every element of our life. It bears repeating that even those things which seem out of reach of our choice are governed by how we choose to perceive them.” Page 147 from SIMPLY AN INSPIRED LIFE

The drug store clerk scowled at me as I handed her cash for my purchase. My look must have inquired, “What?” because she defended, dramatically, “It’s just that it’s practically the last day of July and I can’t believe that I have to wear a sweater. It’s so cold!” I remain silent. Apparently my face was still asking, “What?” as she continued.

“I mean, Summer. What kind of a summer IS this? It’s flippin’ foggy outside. Geez.” I had given her exact change. I was ready to leave but she held my look. She wanted answers and apparently I looked as if I knew something about sweaters and summer.

No. I knew that I saw it was cold and I was wearing a sweater myself. In that instant I thought of my human-rights-advocate friend, Gina, and all the observations she has made about the cheerful countenance and attitude of the many people she greets in refuge camps in Africa. Sweater or not, those folks are just grateful to be alive in the context of what they face in their days. So I told her all I know about summer, She would have been happier with commiseration, but instead I say, “All I know is this: It IS cold and I HAVE a sweater to wear. And on some days that enough to be grateful for.”

So it seems the month of July feels no obligation to meet anyone’s expectations for a certain temperature. As I drove away today I thought about all the things I have in my day today that I could rail against. But I decided to take action on things that I can actually impact…and, the weather is not one of them. But I can impact by choosing which sweater to wear!

1 comment:

Unknown said...

A sweater sounds like heaven to me right now. It has been so blazing hot as I prepare to move with all the sorting, packing, trips. We do need to remember to count our blessings and pick our battles!
Best wishes,