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One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Monday, February 8, 2010

monday morning reflection

monday capriciously conspires to unfocus the focus.


frenetic. frazzled. fumbling for my keys and dropping my lunch i hurriedly dash into the

post office for my mail where i find a package from one of my oldest friends.

just holding it calms me, slows me down.

in to the brand new, not yet unpacked but having worked and produced work out of it for two weeks

studio space. i sit and carefully open the package from my friend.

inside a priority mail pack is another mail pack: carefully covered with holiday papers of red hues: i open

it to find another magnificently wrapped package. silver shimmers topped with sparkly cupcakes and a cap piece

with my name and valentine greetings written by hand.

it is my all time favorite journal in the entire world. of which i still had 5 two years ago. five left of a journal

long out of print and "not available" anywhere. i know, because i spent a total of 8 hours scouring the u.s. for the last remaining

journals left on anyone's shelves. from THAT stash i gifted my friend, certain she would love it as much as me. AND she DID.

she LOVED it so well that she saved it and sent it back to me when i am just on the cusp of running out of those fresh, colorful


i carefully unwrapped the package and stowed the paper remnants on my february 8 journal pages noting of my friend, that this

event reminds me of a very important phrase,

"how you do anything is how you do everything."

in the loving gesture my friend reminds me of so many things. most stellar among the reminders is that there is

no hurry and the confusion is an illusion. all i can do is this thing. and when i am done with this thing, i do the next thing.

i cannot walk ten steps at a time neither can i purpose to complete anything ten actions at a time. just one. after another.

and remembering this i share this story with you and i say under my breath, today's mantra:

"how you do anything is how you do everything."

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