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One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Friday, October 9, 2009

some of my views on CHANGE in Woman's Day

The piece was posted October 8, 2009 under the LIFESTYLE section. Here’s the link – visit the site, it’s fun:

and here’s Mallory’s article:

Change Your Hairstyle, Change Your Life See why a small change can make a big difference

By Mallory Pladus Posted October 08, 2009 from

Kate Gosselin recently walked onto the set of The View donning a new hairstyle. Shock. In place of her well-known no-nonsense angle cut were soft waves. Was this her way of telling everyone she’d moved on from Jon and her very public divorce? Out with the old, in with the new?

“I remember my small town single-chair hair salon owner always knew when someone was just about to break up—the person would say ‘I need something different,’” says Mary Anne Radmacher, co-author of Simply an Inspired Life. But can making a small change, such as cutting your hair, really have an impact on your life? “Absolutely. Small changes are wonderful ways to get into action and feel good about ourselves,” says M.J. Ryan, author of AdaptAbility. “If you’re trying to do something different, one small thing gives you something to focus on and celebrate in order to move forward.”

So stop thinking about all the big stuff you want to change to make life better—new job, losing weight. Whether you’re going through something negative like a divorce, or just want to add more positivity to your life, little changes can have a big effect with very little effort. Read on to find out why.

Makes Us Feel Like We’re In Control

“A haircut is something you can do right away that says I still have control over my life and what happens to me,” says Ryan. Happy with your hair? Try changing your sheets or cleaning out some clutter, anything to remind yourself that you’re in the driver’s seat.

Motivates Us to Make More Change

“Small changes give us a taste of successful completion. They make us long to ‘do that again,’” says Radmacher. For example, the satisfaction of seeing one clean and clutter-less drawer could lead to a completely reorganized desk. Think the snowball effect.

Eases Us In

“There’s a way in which our systems want to stay the same; brains love habit. If you push too hard, the system will rebel,” says Ryan. Remember that impromptu decision to totally change your hair color? Not so good, right? Small changes help us to avoid the regret we often feel after trying something radically different.

Makes a Statement—To Ourselves

“A hair cut can be like flying a banner of change, a declaration that from here on out things are going to be different,” says Radmacher.

Helps Us Succeed with Bigger Goals

Use your haircut as a roadmap, Ryan says. “Ask yourself ‘how can I apply this process to the bigger thing that I want?’” What you learn from changing little things is that you have the power to make positive change, she continues. “That sense of empowerment can be longer lasting than the actual changes you make.”

So start at the salon and end up who knows where. The Chinese philosopher Lao-Tzu said “The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.” But to put it in more convincing terms, let’s turn to a real-life example given by Ryan: “I know a woman who lost 100 pounds and she started by just not eating mayonnaise.”

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