Welcome to Mary Anne Radmacher's blog.

One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

STILL time to register for FOCUS PHRASE for the holidays...


Explore and connect with the spirit of your home, holiday traditions and identify your truest joys contained within the usually hectic and overwhelming chaotic season. If last year you uttered, “never again,” to the crazed and demanding schedule, let mary anne help you keep your promise to yourself.

This process is a daily writing practice that draws upon the writer's natural perspective. This truly is a way to "write to discover what you deeply know."

Add a remarkable dimension to your holiday by writing your invitation to a joyful and purposeful celebration of your days.

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Monday, October 19, 2009

mundane? magic? or magic in the mundane?

find the magic in the mundane (phrase by newly authorized "phraseologist," ellen lambert)

where is the mundane in this day?. good bye to my employee of 12 years ago who came and stayed and had to leave a day early because her little toddler was flu-sick. breakfast club with dear friends at a restaurant down the street where we meet every sunday. the meal always completes with a visit to barbara’s car where her two dogs cover me in dog love and i give great scratches. home for catching up and reading and writing and sunday afternoon napping.

healthy food preparation. the dishes are placed. I love my husband and inquire after his health and solicit his opinions and touch his sternum in the way that tells him he’s hot. i take a hot epson salt bath and pour in lavender oil. i do a variety of things to address this pending sinus condition. i nap again. in none of these actions did I wish I was doing the next thing, nor was i in a hurry, or disengaged or bored.

as I looked at these things while they were happening and in retrospect i couldn’t see either the magic or the mundane. I considered pulling a rabbit out of my hat, so to speak and write what I knew I could fabricate about this. say what OUGHT to be true about finding magic in the mundane. but. i won’t use this process that way. i know for sure that for many years preparing tax information felt mundane. but this last time I changed that. the last tax prep bordered more on magic than mundane. as I was puzzling over this absence of mundane-ness, I got a message from a girl tonight. a woman. the adult (child) of my oldest friend. she said, “I have a very vivid memory of sitting on the floor in your apartment ( I think in Portland) and you served me toasted bagels with cream cheese. It was the first time I ever had bagels and it was so exciting. A small simple thing, but I remember how magical you made it and how fun it was discovering something new with someone who seemed as delighted about it as I was.” so there it is. i accept this as something that is true for me. the magic that I have found today is that i have virtually nothing that is mundane in my life. i am delighted by the things in my life that might appear mundane, and THAT is the magic.

- mary anne radmacher©-

Saturday, October 17, 2009

miracle or masterpiece?

when love and skill work together expect a masterpiece.

-john ruskin – a phrase from ellen lambert, new phraseologist...


yes. i know john ruskin said masterpiece. was it ellen or caren teasing me about people changing one word of a quote that did it? i don’t know. i drew the card. i wrote the phrase down, verbatim, twice and repeated it to myself as I fell into a migraine accompanied sleep.

miracles occurred in my sleep. along the waterline on the beach, in my running clothes with a sweat band on. i launched a huge, unconventional product line. i started my own company. from my small voice – i made a song that reverberated – with vibrato! – around the world. a collage of possibilities – miracles – unfolded in my dreaming window.

i wakened with a slightly different phrase, miracles occur when love and skill combine. as I reflected on my night time dreams i realized it was not a window into the may be of potential but the has been of realized action. is it true? is it possible? in the road with all the difficulty, challenges, broken hearted times and dropped off the shelf disappointments - my life to this point has been a miracle? is a miracle? a glance over my shoulder sees love pairing up with skill at almost every turn. Ruskin didn’t say “love and…” education, or certification or awards. he said skill. and note, radmacher didn’t say, “masterpiece,” she said,


Friday, October 16, 2009

two upcoming RADMACHER FOCUS PHRASE© processes


Explore and connect with the spirit of your home, holiday traditions and identify your truest joys contained within the usually hectic and overwhelming chaotic season. If last year you uttered, “never again,” to the crazed and demanding schedule, let mary anne help you keep your promise to yourself.

LEAN FORWARD INTO YOUR LIFE $179. January 3 – 29

The first of a new year is an excellent time to connect and commit to the things that are meaningful and propel you forward into your vision, hopes and dreams. I will guide you in the process to begin each of your days – on purpose and seizing your unique focus.

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Saturday, October 10, 2009

Advantages of writing with FOCUS PHRASE process

“What will you set down in order to host hope?”

This was the prompt sent out through my daily inspirational phrase mailing.

Several people use that mailing as their own personal FOCUS PHRASE. Sometimes I’m lucky enough to have them share it with me. Two people today did and I’ve asked their permission to share their focus writing with you… here we go!

First, from Jennifer Nace (used her with her permission):

"Set down in order to host hope", or hoist hope? When days are burdened already it can feel like I need to hoist hope, knowing that it is too precious and important to leave behind, yet it has attached to it so many demands of its own. It demands you also carry determination, joy and patience. It bickers incessantly with guilt and worry. It wants to be carried on the hip of self esteem, even if that is your weak side. Oh, and all the while it pleads for you to sing and dance as you travel!

As though child I will hoist hope and carry it on my journey of the day; because like the weight of a child, though not easily lifted, that extra company lightens the load of the worldly and blesses each step I take.

From Caara Chantral, a diligent DAILY FOCUS PHRASE-er…(printed here with her kind permission)

What will you set down in order to host hope?

This is a question that makes me ponder....have I ever lost

hope.? I don't think so....the light of hope may have become

very dim....through many tears. I believe that even in my darkest

moments of despair....I have held onto hope.

I will set down my being in the midst of friends who love me

and feed me both food and belief that my life is a miracle. It is

such a wonderful blessing to have so many friends who reflect to

me that..

All is well...and in that hosts my hope.

Just this morning on the phone there was a message...from my

dear friend Andrea saying.."we are waiting for your arrival". It was

words that gave me "hope" that there is always a place for me.

Andrea's bowls of soup....that she sits in front of

my hope.

Accepting that I am a gypsy that loves her freedom and within

that freedom.....finds a place ...called "home".hosts so much

hope in the peace of who I am. I know...

I am at home with hope..

I am..

I am...

a gypsy filled with hope.

Friday, October 9, 2009

some of my views on CHANGE in Woman's Day

The piece was posted October 8, 2009 under the LIFESTYLE section. Here’s the link – visit the site, it’s fun:

and here’s Mallory’s article:

Change Your Hairstyle, Change Your Life See why a small change can make a big difference

By Mallory Pladus Posted October 08, 2009 from

Kate Gosselin recently walked onto the set of The View donning a new hairstyle. Shock. In place of her well-known no-nonsense angle cut were soft waves. Was this her way of telling everyone she’d moved on from Jon and her very public divorce? Out with the old, in with the new?

“I remember my small town single-chair hair salon owner always knew when someone was just about to break up—the person would say ‘I need something different,’” says Mary Anne Radmacher, co-author of Simply an Inspired Life. But can making a small change, such as cutting your hair, really have an impact on your life? “Absolutely. Small changes are wonderful ways to get into action and feel good about ourselves,” says M.J. Ryan, author of AdaptAbility. “If you’re trying to do something different, one small thing gives you something to focus on and celebrate in order to move forward.”

So stop thinking about all the big stuff you want to change to make life better—new job, losing weight. Whether you’re going through something negative like a divorce, or just want to add more positivity to your life, little changes can have a big effect with very little effort. Read on to find out why.

Makes Us Feel Like We’re In Control

“A haircut is something you can do right away that says I still have control over my life and what happens to me,” says Ryan. Happy with your hair? Try changing your sheets or cleaning out some clutter, anything to remind yourself that you’re in the driver’s seat.

Motivates Us to Make More Change

“Small changes give us a taste of successful completion. They make us long to ‘do that again,’” says Radmacher. For example, the satisfaction of seeing one clean and clutter-less drawer could lead to a completely reorganized desk. Think the snowball effect.

Eases Us In

“There’s a way in which our systems want to stay the same; brains love habit. If you push too hard, the system will rebel,” says Ryan. Remember that impromptu decision to totally change your hair color? Not so good, right? Small changes help us to avoid the regret we often feel after trying something radically different.

Makes a Statement—To Ourselves

“A hair cut can be like flying a banner of change, a declaration that from here on out things are going to be different,” says Radmacher.

Helps Us Succeed with Bigger Goals

Use your haircut as a roadmap, Ryan says. “Ask yourself ‘how can I apply this process to the bigger thing that I want?’” What you learn from changing little things is that you have the power to make positive change, she continues. “That sense of empowerment can be longer lasting than the actual changes you make.”

So start at the salon and end up who knows where. The Chinese philosopher Lao-Tzu said “The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.” But to put it in more convincing terms, let’s turn to a real-life example given by Ryan: “I know a woman who lost 100 pounds and she started by just not eating mayonnaise.”

Thursday, October 8, 2009

Stand out elements from conversation with Steve Maraboli

The STAND OUTS from my conversation with Steve Maraboli today, October 8, 2009 LIVE WITH INTENTION

download the interview at or search Steve Maraboli at iTunes

I love my conversations with Steve Maraboli. His enthusiasm is contagious. His commitment to service and to good thinking is inspiring. He’s funny, smart and a great conversationalist. A full hour flies by and it feels as if we have been talking for about ten minutes.

The involvement of synchronicity in the development of our monthly series: the day we were scheduled to talk to each other one to one, Steve encountered my poetry on a poster in a hospital he was at with his mom. The words LIVE WITH INTENTION meant a lot to Steve at that moment and when he realized my name was at the end of it – it struck him as particularly significant.

Things that Steve said in the course of our conversation that I wrote down:

“I’m most honest when I’m scared or in trouble. I wrote things in my notebook when I was in the military being deployed somewhere – I was a genius at those times.”

“Falling asleep is when I most out of my own way.”

“Every day I’m going to do WHAT I can WHILE I can.”

“Each day I wake up and there’s a gift at the end of my bed – waiting to be opened. Each day is a gift. I exhaust myself with the blessings of the day. Many people play with an older box - A box from a different day. I go into tomorrow with no rules -(from the past) just a brand new box.”

“You’re not pulled by anything – you’re driven by your mission, your intentions.”

“A lot of times the truth isn’t dressed for our occasion.”

During our break Steve played a clip from a public speech. In it he talked about how intentions are part of the formula but they are not everything. Intention has to partner with action. And then he challenged people to, “Unass their couch.” And, he assured his listeners that, “Unass” is a real word, by the way!”

Ww explored how our habits, our history, our past…can control our present. Jonathan wrote in and asked how I dealt with difficult days. Days when things are not “quite right.” My coauthor, another Jonathan (Lockwood Huie) in Simply An Inspired Life calls those things that show up in our days, our shadows. People tend to try and disregard the shadows and only pay attention to the positive. The Light. But even the brightest light casts a shadow! I suggested that one must stand up, turn around and face that history. Instead of trying to drown out its impact, allow its voice to speak to you. Ask, “What are you here for and what do you have to teach me?” It occurred to me that another “Marabolism” could apply here…”UNASS YOUR PAST.” Indeed, stop sitting on your past. Rise up. Face it and allow the lesson to occur to you so that you can release it and move on. People can sit with their past on the ride into today. Don’t you love it, Steve? “Unass Your Past.” When it’s a book, I’ll want to read it.

There are patterns that both Steve and I use to focus ourselves in our days. He conducts a “funeral” for each of his days before he sleeps. I write in a dated log my lessons, connections, frustrations I’m letting go and celebrations I want to embrace.

In the morning I have several processes: an intellectual pursuit, spiritual exploration and writing processes. Now I’m using:




I write in a book dedicated to this process either a general vision/intention for my life or a gratitude I want to express.

I review my written intentions and my personal mission statement that I post in the front of my journal. I write in my journal or on a slip of paper the significances I want to address in the day.

What I forgot to mention on the radio is that I play a word puzzle. It’s the last thing I do before I get out of bed in the morning. It gets my mind in the space of problem solving and strategic thinking. A good mindset readying myself for whatever might come my way in the day.

Mike wrote in validating that the practical steps we provide listeners when we talk are really helpful and that led to this suggestion… CONNECT to you own intentions by recording peak moments, “aha” experiences or things that really motivate and energize you. Write those things down, individually, as they occur on small pieces of paper. Collect those papers. Follow this practice for several weeks and you can review the things you’ve written and begin to identify a pattern of the things which may form the basis of your life mission/intention.

Spiros wrote and asked how I keep my artistic soul alive in my everyday activities. I use my craft to create supportive and personal connections, both for myself and to others. I decorate the journal I use in artful ways that are meaningful and inspiring to me. I create cards as gifts for friends and people I want to acknowledge or thank. I adopt a deployed soldier through and write and send things to support him and to share with our military personnel.


Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Jane Smiley said it well in her book...

13 Ways of Looking at the Novel....
"Many people, myself among them, feel better at the mere sight of a book."

regardless of reviews. regardless of the condition of the cover. regardless of the
work that has come before, or the books that are stacked under it or around it...
a book has a presence. it represents a new possibility: the relationship between
you the reader and the soul of the writer, captured there, on paper, via little
glyphs. the meaning you take from those symbols and marks is no longer
what the writer intended but what you, the reader, create for yourself.
so is the power of a book.

what world might you read yourself into today? what quality might invite you in
through the pages of a book? how might you embrace the heroic within yourself
inspired by marks on a page? what are you reading?

Monday, October 5, 2009

Listen to an inspired radio conversation

Simply an Inspired Life

Consciously Choosing Unbounded Happiness in Good Times and Bad, Conari Press, 2009

by mary anne radmacher & Jonathan Lockwood Huie

If you ever wonder how to take charge of your life and how to be happy in the face of life’s most challenging circumstances ….

Well then, join Erika Gombosova and mary anne radmacher on the next Wise Chick Show as they explore the topic of LIVING AN INSPIRED LIFE with Mary Anne Radmacher co-author of the book SIMPLY AN INSPIRED LIFE.

Here is your call in number: (347) 215-8754



What they will talk about:

- the keys to living an inspired life

- the importance of conscious choices in your life

- how to bring focus and clarity to your every day

- why suffering is optional

- how to choose joy and what the authors mean when they use the word “JOY” It may not be what you think!

Holidaze Focus Phrase©

holidaze focus phrase with mary anne radmacher©

What is Focus Phrase with mary anne radmacher©?

Daily you take a specific phrase into your day, ponder it, look at the events of your day through it. After focusing and reflecting, you write a maximum of three paragraphs. Your work is considered daily. mary anne responds to your writing approximately eight times in the course of the process. The primary emphasis in this experience is taking the phrase into your day's activities and then writing your observations. The writing is an essential but supportive part. The observations lean toward content, not style. Meaning this is a way of seeing the events of your life in a different perspective more than it is a writing exercise. This is an exciting process for people who want to be more intentional about their days, explore new ways to learn from the ordinary experiences of their lives and introduce a consistent writing practice.


Explore and connect with the spirit of your home, holiday traditions and identify your truest joys contained within the usually hectic and overwhelming chaotic season. If last year you uttered, “never again,” to the crazed and demanding schedule, let mary anne help you keep that promise to yourself. If the holiday season is already your favorite time of the year this is an opportunity to enhance the delight.

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