Welcome to Mary Anne Radmacher's blog.

One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Tuesday, June 30, 2009


Being willing to see the divine in everyone changed my day.

Willingness is a spiritual engraved invitation – to receive the very thing we are willing and receptive to.

It is rightly said that we see what we are looking for. In my heightened awareness of the divine in others, not only did I see it in all places I looked but I am clear that my own divine nature was more visible. All things were equal today – in that I wore nothing new, hadn’t changed my hair and wasn’t driving a fancy car. Wanting to see the finest in others lifted back the curtains: what a show! Driving courtesies, unexpected smiles in every aisle of the grocery store, meaningful conversations between strangers and unanticipated generosities toward my specific program of service. I issued the invitation by my willingness to see the divine in all – and every guest responded with an enthusiastic, “Yes.”

It’s an equation that calls to mind the unicorn saying to Alice, in Wonderland, “I’ll believe in you if you’ll believe in me.”

Saturday, June 27, 2009

a letter to mary anne sent from her BUSY MIND

Dear Mary Anne:

You always hear from me but I thought I’d officially notify you today on behalf of expectation, uncertainly, self-recrimination and resistance. We are involved in a significant meeting. Since everybody knows me as The Busy Mind, they figured asking me to do “one more thing,” wouldn’t matter.

“Bring it on! I can do it all – even though I already have so much to do.” Yes. That’s really me talking when those martyr like phrases come out of your mouth. Well, anyway, I’m speaking on their behalf today.

You, Mary Anne, left to your own devices, just play with delight and create from your heart. Thank G@! I’m there to remind you of all your responsibilities, strengths and shortcomings. See. I try for balance in my whispering – no wonder you’ve been tucking your head into those little electronic word games. You can’t hear me there. It really bugs me when you do that, by the way. When you come out of the sound proof booth I have to up my game just to bring you up to speed.

Look – it’s our collective jobs to keep you connected to everything. All that “letting go” stuff you practice just keeps us all damn busy running around, catching the stuff and bringing it back to you. If you’d simply hold on to stuff in the first place it would make all of our jobs so much easier. (You’re plain lucky I haven’t endorsed a union here. You would really have a hard time shutting us out then.) Just keep in mind that we are committed – we will do whatever it takes to keep you mired in our realities.

I wish you’d give up this focus phrase process of yours. That’s another thing that makes our jobs super hard. How’s a Busy Mind supposed to be effective when your mind is open, at ease and simply observing and learning from the world around you? I’m the Conduit. I want to be in charge and I want you to let me be in charge.

Yeh. Yeh. Everybody – I Know! Everybody here wants to think that THEY are in charge. Fine. You all can think what you want.

Okay. Okay. I’ll communicate for them, now.

Fear says’s he’s only trying to protect you from making the same mistakes. “Hey! Wait a minute – Fear! When did you show up to this meeting? I hate it when you slip in late without me noticing.”

Expectation says she’s only trying to help you live up to your astonishingly well polished standard-trophies. Uncertaintly reminds you he’s actually creativity in disguise – he doesn’t want you to get all soft and cushy in your career so he dresses up as uncertainty. (You know this already, right? Seriously? You forgot? How do you forget a thing like that? Maybe I’ve fallen down on my job by not helping you remember this.)

Self-recrimination. Before I let you hear from that department let me just say that self-recrimination has been a real management challenge for me. She often steps in trying to do MY job. Imagine. Her! Trying to sound like The Busy Mind. She’s actually been pulling it off quite a bit, lately. It's quite disturbing. So, help me watch out for that, okay?

Allright. Self –recrimination, my underling, my employee, self-recrimination who reports first TO ME, not to you - just wants you to know she knew you before everybody else. She knew you when you were just an obscure nobody. Who would keep you humble if she didn’t?

Resistance is the head of the Internal Corps of Engineers. He’s very busy right now so he left right after we started this meeting. But I can tell you what’s what. He understands your lack of artistic discipline. He sees how you’ve succumbed to the process of designing by fire – large bonfire bursts. So he just steps in and digs those fire line trenches as deep as he can. By the time the fire is large enough to breech the line it is roaring and unstoppable.

I know. I know. It leaves you exhausted. But that’s one of my busiest times. I get to keep you engaged with all the other things you haven’t done while engaged in the creative fire building.

See? We really do all work hard for you. So, if you could stop this being present, in joy, with the present moment nonsense it would go a lot better for all of us.

There is so much more I could say – but I’ve got a lot to do so I’ve got to go. Take care – The Busy Mind

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

tell your friends in the seattle area about this thursday!

6500 Roosevelt Way NE

Seattle, WA 98115

206-523-3726 / 1-800-587-6002

Courage Doesn’t

Always Roar

Thursday, June 25

7-8:30 p.m. Free!

MARY ANNE RADMACHER, author of Courage Doesn’t Always Roar, will

provide you with the low technology method to identify and define your

own personal courage attributes and a daily follow-up method to reinforce

the objectives that she helps you create. Practical and immediately accessible,

Mary Anne has a unique way of presenting simple methodologies which can

have a far-reaching impact on your life.

If you use a journal, bring one, or buy one at East West Bookshop.

Because so many people ask me to do this - I will also be doing brief readings (my favorite parts)

from each of my books. AND i'm going to give a couple of sneak peeks into projects that are not yet released. I hope you will share this free of charge opportunity with your friends in the Seattle area.

Sunday, June 21, 2009

celebrate your native enthusiasm.

being connected to my enthusiasm is a great deal of fun, brings vibrancy and zest to each part of my day and throws open wide doors in my experience.

there are some requirements. i must (be willing to) set aside ego and any attachment I have to looking smart or sophisticated. my interests must lie in discovery and presence, not appearance and assessment. the instant the familiar question, “What will people think?” is asked, enthusiasm evaporates. enthusiasm prefers the company of freedom and unselfconsciousness.

a service provider and I speak often about her childhood dream of being a dancer. her dreams was deferred in adulthood, traded for more practical pursuits. regularly we make a case for dance finding a place in the every day.

she returned the compliment recently observing my “dancing hands” and remembering to me the pleasure of movement with a ribbon tied with a swivel to the endof a stick.

“oh!” yes! i recalled all the ways that ribbons could be moved. it was like writing with color in the air. note to self: find one. and I did. wondering through a toy store I came upon unexpectedly (seizing serendipity is another favorite thing of enthusiasm) I noticed them. one for each hand came home with me. Parked on the ferry dock I unwrapped the ribbon standing alongside my car. when I am professionally engaged with children we do an exercise called air write. it’s like finger painting only without the paint and paper – we write in the air. adding a ribbon turns it into sky writing. and there I began. oblivious. it took a man walking by, kindly laughing and observing, “You are having entirely too much fun,” for me to stir to the stares and smiles from the dozens of cars around me. both were returned with a shrug and a smile and resumed my discovery process of all the ways that ribbon would have me move it.

if you feel the need for assistance or tutoring in this celebration of your enthusiasm there are two readily available resources. hang out with some local three or four year olds, or a big ‘ole dog in fresh mown, moist green grass. in those classrooms you will learn most everything you need to know to begin celebrating your native enthusiasm.

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Share with your Seattle/Tacoma Friends

Join us in Tacoma for
Womanhood: The Divine Comedy
Thoughts on Life, Laughter
and The Pursuit of Happiness

Friday, June 12th, 2009 - 7:00 p.m.

The Rialto Theater
310 South 9th Street, Tacoma, Washington

Womanhood is working wonders!

No one said being a woman was easy, but thank goodness it can be entertaining! Laugh your way to a great time with good friends during this evening of comedy for a cause. This one-of-a-kind one-woman-show is presented by Deanna Davis, PhD, a humorist and author of three books, including the forthcoming Laugh, Cry, Eat Some Pie: An Irreverent Guide to Mindful Living. Deanna is an admitted laughaholic and a strong proponent of adding chocolate as a key category of the USDA Food Pyramid.

This event is for you…your friends…and the community. It’s time for a few luxurious hours for self-care and celebration. Grab your friends (or make a few new ones!), sprinkle in some wit, wisdom, and a few wacky tales from the adventurous life of women, and you’ve got an unforgettable evening. Laugh as you learn the finer points of balance and bliss, centeredness and connection.

Better still, this is a Girls’ Night Out that Gives Back! Proceeds from this event will support two local non-profit organizations whose missions keep our communities safe and healthy:Pierce County Commission Against Domestic Violence and WithinReach.

Your ticket includes an evening of uncontrollable laughter, great music, free drawings, and uninterrupted time to relax and reconnect with friends…or make new ones! Please join us for a wonderful evening filled with comedy, connection, and community…and the opportunity to help these remarkable organizations support the residents of Pierce County.

Tickets start at $40 and group, senior, student, and military discounts are available. VIP tickets are available for $100 and include a special pre-event
wine and appetizer reception.

Order your tickets today:
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• In person at the Broadway Center for the Performing Arts at 901 Broadway, Tacoma.

When women gather, the world changes!
Why not make a commitment to yourself to join us for a few exquisite hours
filled with good humor and a great opportunity to help others?

"See you...and your Tacoma!"

Deanna Davis, PhD
Author of The Law of Attraction in Action and Living With Intention
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Friday, June 5, 2009

OLD Dog Learns NEW Tricks

A person hears only what they understand. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe –

A familiar refrain begins many arguments, “But I told you…”

“You did not!

“Three times.”

“You did?

“Yes, I explained it all to you – Three times.”

“I must not have heard you.”

“You HEARD me allright, you just didn’t understand. Why didn’t you TELL me you didn’t understand.”

Goethe got it right. We only readily hear what we already understand. This is why it is erroneously said you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. The first and really only new trick and old dog needs to learn is how to listen hard and well.

Today I saw Goethe’s observations at work. Remember when any adult spoke in Charles Schultz’s imagined world of Peanuts? It was never know what the adult might be saying because we were only treated to what the child heard – a succession of , “Mwah, Mwah, Mwah.”

Thanks to Goethe, today I was aware of the many times that I was hearing but not understanding. I was able to say, “Could you say that another way?” It allowed me to grasp that I didn’t understand and I knew this because I focused on listening hard, like a maestro hearing each note of a new orchestration. Each note making up the impact of the whole. Mastering hearing the whole to understand the parts.

-mary anne radmacher -

Thursday, June 4, 2009

please tell your friends in seattle!

East West Bookshop

6500 Roosevelt Way NE

Seattle, WA 98115

206-523-3726 / 1-800-587-6002

Courage Doesn’t

Always Roar

Thursday, June 25

7-8:30 p.m. Free!

MARY ANNE RADMACHER, author of Courage Doesn’t Always Roar, will

provide you with the low technology method to identify and define your

own personal courage attributes and a daily follow-up method to reinforce

the objectives that she helps you create. Practical and immediately accessible,

Mary Anne has a unique way of presenting simple methodologies which can

have a far-reaching impact on your life.

If you use a journal, bring one, or buy one at East West Bookshop.

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

the jump is so frightening


When I was a little girl I would save my money and go to our corner drug store which had, what I thought, was the world’s largest collection of greeting cards. And they were for sale! Bliss. I loved all the images and would take an hour to select one card. Even at eight years old I thought the inside greetings were just plain silly. I would purchase my card, march home and use my dad’s white-strike-out-correcting sheet to set those insides right (had “white out” not yet been invented?). Then it was ready for a personal note and was sent off to some interested family friend or a relative that required a thank you. I was not sure what “precocious” meant but folks always said it in a kind way when they told my mother that’s what I was.

In my early twenties I dreamt of starting my own greeting card company. I would write on the pages of my journal, ”I want to be an artist.” I longed to create a livelihood that had meaning and use my talents and skills in the service of a compelling and inspiring idea. I was certain that I would have to WAIT until I was (eh-hem) really old. Maybe some time in my forties. I thought perhaps by the time I reached the wise age of 45 I would have gotten all the education needed and managed to save up enough money to fund my own company.

The rumblings wouldn’t leave. I felt unwilling to wait almost twenty years before I could manifest my dream I wrote to a man who used to own the kite shop in the small community in which I lived. He knew a lot about how to make things fly…including one’s dreams. I poured my heart out to him in that letter. I told him I realized I didn’t know the first thing about operating a business and I didn’t have a dime to my name. But I KNEW what I wanted to do. And then I wrote, “The jump is so frightening between where I am and where I want to be…because of all I may become I will close my eyes and leap.”

I brought the letter to a close and posted it. Soon a photocopy of that letter came back to me. The jump phrase was circled in RED…with his note on the side. “THIS sentence, these words, are the reason you are ready to start your business now. You know everything you need to know…and these words should go on one of your first products.”

They did.

I have heard stories over the years how that particular sentence has been the motivation to move people along and give them the courage to put wings to their dreams.

Ha! Just today I could fold those words into a letter whispered just after these words, “I am on the cusp of a remarkable journey. All the longings of my life have led me to this amazing transition in my experience.” Ah, yes. Jump.