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One way to get to know a person you've just met is to ask them to tell you about their favorite friends. It's said that a person essentially becomes an aggregate of the five people with whom they spend the most time.

There's another telling question to ask a stranger. It's all about a book.

1) Is there one book that you have re-read and will read again (and again)?
2) What is the most recent book that you've read and what stands out to you most?
3) What is the title of a book you recommend most often to friends?
4) What was the last book you read that made you so sad when it came to the end? (Because you wanted to keep on reading, not because the ending was sad!).

If the person you are just getting to know has never re-read a book, can't remember what stood out from the last book they read, doesn't recommend books to friends and has never felt sad to stop reading an excellent book...

I suggest that you stop conversing with them. And, perhaps, run. Kidding (not kidding). Perhaps you might consider striking up a conversation with someone else that you might want to get to know. AND start THAT conversation off by recommending a book you've recently read...

Saturday, May 9, 2009

Mother's Day reflection

i am going to use this mother's day to reflect on the qualities i most admire in the mothers i know.
AND aspire to demonstrate some of those qualities in the coming week.

what might some of those qualities be?

in tina i admire the way that she models confidence and self esteem for her daughter; in barbara i admire how she demonstrates taking personal responsibility for "stuff;" from kim i gather strength from the dining room table that is the focus of her family - the pile of cloth napkins and the coming together of story and experience that happens there; from kathleen e. i know that her OCCASIONS are grand and special and likely involve cupcakes and flowers. or, more generally, something she's baked and something she's grown; my friend eileen considers her three daughters her life's most viable and valuable asset. that's real perspective. there's no economic downturn with daughters; jan sees the talents and skills of her daughter and clears a path in the road for her to express those talents in as broad a manner as possible; busy business woman deanna doesn't do anything when it's meet the bus time. she has a lot to do...and it all lands in priority with her children first; connie meets each of her children on their own playing field and doesn't spend time comparing one to the other.

i'm blessed to know so many outstanding mothers. i'm even more fortunate that i am often the recipient of their nurturing motheringness. while i have no children, officially authenticating me as a mother, i am honored to demonstrate the lessons that mothers have presented in my life. i am proud to list "motherly" as an important attribute on my own list of qualities which i happily articulate to the world.

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